misbehave re-checking during p2p msg sending & recving

[Radar3]

Describe the bug
After long time running, it seems we may be banned by some peers.

To Reproduce
Difficult to reproduce, should run for a long time, and maybe occur.

Expected behavior
Should work normally even after long time running.

Additional context
I will do a test, let copernicus only connect to a local abc peer, modify abc's log to print out the misbehaving related logs, to check if we have ever misbehaved.