Unpleasant warnings

[Bestializator]

Hello,

After submitting an appeal and discussing the matter, I was encouraged to bring the issue here.

Description of the situation: I was playing a bullet game and was winning (or at least that's what I felt). At some point, I made a mistake, and my opponent had the opportunity to checkmate me in a few moves. For about 30 seconds, I tried to find a way to avoid this, but eventually, I resigned. I then received a warning stating that if I continue such behavior in the future, my account might be banned.

Of course, I understand that this is a broader issue than just my case, and I, too, often feel irritated when someone deliberately and maliciously delays a lost game, pretending to search for a solution. So I do understand the purpose of such warnings.

However, I have two remarks:

1. Perhaps the parameters for issuing such warnings could be adjusted. For instance, in my situation and given my skill level, it wasn't obvious or easy to determine within 30 seconds that the position was completely lost.
2. Even if such warnings are issued, maybe they could be phrased in a more pleasant way? Perhaps as a "note" instead of a "warning"? I believe the tone and atmosphere of communication matter a lot and shape the overall vibe of the platform. I understand that there are cheaters, malicious players, and even rude individuals who need to be dealt with firmly, but that doesn't have to mean impolitely. There's also a principle of presumption of innocence. If we all stop trusting each other, it will create a counterproductive and unfriendly environment.

Please don't get me wrong—it's not that I'm overly sensitive or deeply hurt by receiving a warning. I just think it would be nice if Lichess remained a fair and friendly platform (especially since this is one of its advantages over platforms like Chess.com), and the language we use to communicate with each other contributes a lot to that.

In this sense, my comment is general and applies to all warnings on the platform.

Best regards, and thank you for the fabulous work you’re doing.

Roland