Ensure that useFocus hooks are properly merged with user provided refs

[micahgodbolt]

#24154 added a polyfill for focus visible and focus within, but on several components the ref returned by the hooks was added to the defaultProps, therefor any ref passed in by the user would override the ref and break focus rectangles.

This is being fixed in Slider by #26243

but we'll need to go through the rest of the controls where these hooks were added and make sure they merge with user props properly.

#26245 (comment)

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