GH-44342: [C++] Disable jemalloc by default on ARM

jemalloc may have a problem on ARM.
See also: #44342

ci/scripts/python_wheel_manylinux_build.sh

@@ -55,7 +55,6 @@ echo "=== (${PYTHON_VERSION}) Building Arrow C++ libraries ==="
 : ${ARROW_GANDIVA:=OFF}
 : ${ARROW_GCS:=ON}
 : ${ARROW_HDFS:=ON}
-: ${ARROW_JEMALLOC:=ON}
 : ${ARROW_MIMALLOC:=ON}
 : ${ARROW_ORC:=ON}
 : ${ARROW_PARQUET:=ON}
@@ -81,6 +80,9 @@ if [[ "$(uname -m)" == arm* ]] || [[ "$(uname -m)" == aarch* ]]; then
     # 4k and 64k page arm64 systems. For more context see
     # https://github.com/apache/arrow/issues/10929
     export ARROW_EXTRA_CMAKE_FLAGS="-DARROW_JEMALLOC_LG_PAGE=16"
+    : ${ARROW_JEMALLOC:=OFF}
+else
+    : ${ARROW_JEMALLOC:=ON}
 fi
 
 mkdir /tmp/arrow-build

cpp/cmake_modules/DefineOptions.cmake

@@ -364,14 +364,18 @@ takes precedence over ccache if a storage backend is configured" ON)
 
   set(ARROW_JEMALLOC_DESCRIPTION "Build the Arrow jemalloc-based allocator")
   if(WIN32
-     OR "${CMAKE_SYSTEM_NAME}" STREQUAL "FreeBSD"
+     OR CMAKE_SYSTEM_NAME STREQUAL "FreeBSD"
+     OR CMAKE_SYSTEM_PROCESSOR MATCHES "aarch|ARM|arm"
      OR NOT ARROW_ENABLE_THREADING)
     # jemalloc is not supported on Windows.
     #
     # jemalloc is the default malloc implementation on FreeBSD and can't
     # be built with --disable-libdl on FreeBSD. Because lazy-lock feature
     # is required on FreeBSD. Lazy-lock feature requires libdl.
     #
+    # jemalloc may have a problem on ARM.
+    # See also: https://github.com/apache/arrow/issues/44342
+    #
     # jemalloc requires thread.
     define_option(ARROW_JEMALLOC ${ARROW_JEMALLOC_DESCRIPTION} OFF)
   else()