perf: reduce notifications on relationship remote state updates

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If this works, this would fix one issue we noticed in 4.13-canary

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Performance Report for 212d278

Scenario - basic-record-materialization: ☑️ Performance is stable

☑️ duration
phase no difference [-5ms to 10ms]
☑️ Phase [navigationStart] => [start-data-generation]
phase no difference [-1ms to 0ms]
☑️ Phase [start-data-generation] => [start-push-payload]
phase no difference [-1ms to 1ms]
☑️ Phase [start-push-payload] => [start-peek-records]
phase no difference [-5ms to 5ms]
☑️ Phase [start-peek-records] => [start-record-materialization]
phase no difference [0ms to 0ms]
☑️ Phase [start-record-materialization] => [end-record-materialization]
phase no difference [-1ms to 5ms]
☑️ Phase [end-record-materialization] => [Test End]
phase no difference [0ms to 0ms]

Scenario - relationship-materialization-simple: ☑️ Performance is stable

☑️ duration
phase no difference [-6ms to 0ms]
☑️ Phase [navigationStart] => [start-find-all]
phase no difference [-1ms to 0ms]
☑️ Phase [start-find-all] => [start-materialization]
phase no difference [-3ms to 1ms]
☑️ Phase [start-materialization] => [end-materialization]
phase no difference [-2ms to 2ms]
☑️ Phase [end-materialization] => [Test End]
phase no difference [-1ms to 0ms]

Scenario - relationship-materialization-complex: ✅ Performance improved

✅ duration
phase estimated improvement -10ms [-17ms to -2ms] OR -0.39% [-0.69% to -0.07%]
☑️ Phase [navigationStart] => [start-data-generation]
phase no difference [-1ms to 0ms]
✅ Phase [start-data-generation] => [start-push-payload]
phase estimated improvement -1ms [-1ms to 0ms] OR -0.65% [-1.07% to -0.26%]
☑️ Phase [start-push-payload] => [start-peek-records]
phase no difference [-2ms to 3ms]
☑️ Phase [start-peek-records] => [start-record-materialization]
phase no difference [0ms to 0ms]
☑️ Phase [start-record-materialization] => [start-relationship-materialization]
phase no difference [-1ms to 2ms]
✅ Phase [start-relationship-materialization] => [end-relationship-materialization]
phase estimated improvement -10ms [-16ms to -3ms] OR -0.66% [-1.02% to -0.2%]
☑️ Phase [end-relationship-materialization] => [Test End]
phase no difference [-1ms to 1ms]

Scenario - unload: ☑️ Performance is stable

☑️ duration
phase no difference [-2ms to 4ms]
☑️ Phase [navigationStart] => [start-push-payload]
phase no difference [0ms to 1ms]
⚠️ Phase [start-push-payload] => [start-unload-records]
phase estimated regression +2ms [0ms to 4ms] OR +0.78% [0.08% to 1.59%]
☑️ Phase [start-unload-records] => [end-unload-records]
phase no difference [-2ms to 1ms]
☑️ Phase [end-unload-records] => [Test End]
phase no difference [-1ms to 0ms]

Scenario - unload-all: ⚠️ Performance regressed

⚠️ duration
phase estimated regression +6ms [1ms to 10ms] OR +0.47% [0.07% to 0.8%]
☑️ Phase [navigationStart] => [start-push-payload]
phase no difference [0ms to 1ms]
⚠️ Phase [start-push-payload] => [start-materialization]
phase estimated regression +3ms [1ms to 6ms] OR +0.63% [0.17% to 1.11%]
☑️ Phase [start-materialization] => [start-unload-all]
phase no difference [-2ms to 2ms]
☑️ Phase [start-unload-all] => [end-unload-all]
phase no difference [0ms to 5ms]
☑️ Phase [end-unload-all] => [Test End]
phase no difference [0ms to 0ms]

Scenario - destroy: ☑️ Performance is stable

☑️ duration
phase no difference [-2ms to 6ms]
☑️ Phase [navigationStart] => [start-push-payload]
phase no difference [-1ms to 1ms]
☑️ Phase [start-push-payload] => [start-destroy-records]
phase no difference [0ms to 4ms]
☑️ Phase [start-destroy-records] => [end-destroy-records]
phase no difference [-3ms to 2ms]
☑️ Phase [end-destroy-records] => [Test End]
phase no difference [0ms to 1ms]

Scenario - add-children: ☑️ Performance is stable

☑️ duration
phase no difference [-2ms to 3ms]
☑️ Phase [navigationStart] => [start-push-initial-payload]
phase no difference [-1ms to 0ms]
☑️ Phase [start-push-initial-payload] => [start-push-update-payload]
phase no difference [-2ms to 1ms]
☑️ Phase [start-push-update-payload] => [end-push-update-payload]
phase no difference [-1ms to 2ms]
☑️ Phase [end-push-update-payload] => [Test End]
phase no difference [0ms to 1ms]

Scenario - unused-relationships: ☑️ Performance is stable

☑️ duration
phase no difference [-3ms to 2ms]
☑️ Phase [navigationStart] => [start-push-payload]
phase no difference [-1ms to 0ms]
☑️ Phase [start-push-payload] => [end-push-payload]
phase no difference [-3ms to 1ms]
☑️ Phase [end-push-payload] => [Test End]
phase no difference [0ms to 0ms]

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Commit v Release Performance Report for 212d278

Scenario - basic-record-materialization: ✅ Performance improved

✅ duration
phase estimated improvement -39ms [-53ms to -25ms] OR -2.19% [-3% to -1.42%]
☑️ Phase [navigationStart] => [start-data-generation]
phase no difference [-1ms to 1ms]
☑️ Phase [start-data-generation] => [start-push-payload]
phase no difference [-3ms to 0ms]
✅ Phase [start-push-payload] => [start-peek-records]
phase estimated improvement -31ms [-39ms to -22ms] OR -3.18% [-4.01% to -2.28%]
☑️ Phase [start-peek-records] => [start-record-materialization]
phase no difference [0ms to 0ms]
☑️ Phase [start-record-materialization] => [end-record-materialization]
phase no difference [-7ms to 6ms]
✅ Phase [end-record-materialization] => [Test End]
phase estimated improvement -1ms [-2ms to 0ms] OR -2.87% [-5.93% to -1.02%]

Scenario - relationship-materialization-simple: ☑️ Performance is stable

☑️ duration
phase no difference [-5ms to 5ms]
☑️ Phase [navigationStart] => [start-find-all]
phase no difference [0ms to 1ms]
☑️ Phase [start-find-all] => [start-materialization]
phase no difference [-4ms to 1ms]
☑️ Phase [start-materialization] => [end-materialization]
phase no difference [-1ms to 4ms]
☑️ Phase [end-materialization] => [Test End]
phase no difference [-1ms to 1ms]

Scenario - relationship-materialization-complex: ✅ Performance improved

✅ duration
phase estimated improvement -21ms [-38ms to -6ms] OR -0.82% [-1.47% to -0.22%]
☑️ Phase [navigationStart] => [start-data-generation]
phase no difference [-1ms to 0ms]
⚠️ Phase [start-data-generation] => [start-push-payload]
phase estimated regression +2ms [1ms to 2ms] OR +1.45% [0.97% to 1.93%]
✅ Phase [start-push-payload] => [start-peek-records]
phase estimated improvement -16ms [-21ms to -12ms] OR -3.82% [-4.78% to -2.83%]
☑️ Phase [start-peek-records] => [start-record-materialization]
phase no difference [0ms to 0ms]
☑️ Phase [start-record-materialization] => [start-relationship-materialization]
phase no difference [-4ms to 2ms]
☑️ Phase [start-relationship-materialization] => [end-relationship-materialization]
phase no difference [-22ms to 3ms]
☑️ Phase [end-relationship-materialization] => [Test End]
phase no difference [0ms to 4ms]

Scenario - unload: ✅ Performance improved

✅ duration
phase estimated improvement -7ms [-10ms to -4ms] OR -1.27% [-1.87% to -0.66%]
☑️ Phase [navigationStart] => [start-push-payload]
phase no difference [-1ms to 1ms]
✅ Phase [start-push-payload] => [start-unload-records]
phase estimated improvement -6ms [-8ms to -3ms] OR -2.07% [-3% to -1.2%]
☑️ Phase [start-unload-records] => [end-unload-records]
phase no difference [-2ms to 0ms]
☑️ Phase [end-unload-records] => [Test End]
phase no difference [0ms to 0ms]

Scenario - unload-all: ✅ Performance improved

✅ duration
phase estimated improvement -20ms [-36ms to -4ms] OR -1.42% [-2.6% to -0.31%]
☑️ Phase [navigationStart] => [start-push-payload]
phase no difference [0ms to 2ms]
✅ Phase [start-push-payload] => [start-materialization]
phase estimated improvement -12ms [-19ms to -6ms] OR -2.12% [-3.18% to -1.05%]
☑️ Phase [start-materialization] => [start-unload-all]
phase no difference [-8ms to 1ms]
☑️ Phase [start-unload-all] => [end-unload-all]
phase no difference [-10ms to 1ms]
☑️ Phase [end-unload-all] => [Test End]
phase no difference [0ms to 1ms]

Scenario - destroy: ✅ Performance improved

✅ duration
phase estimated improvement -4ms [-8ms to -1ms] OR -0.83% [-1.49% to -0.17%]
☑️ Phase [navigationStart] => [start-push-payload]
phase no difference [-1ms to 1ms]
✅ Phase [start-push-payload] => [start-destroy-records]
phase estimated improvement -2ms [-5ms to 0ms] OR -0.83% [-1.68% to -0.01%]
✅ Phase [start-destroy-records] => [end-destroy-records]
phase estimated improvement -3ms [-5ms to 0ms] OR -2.9% [-5.49% to -0.43%]
☑️ Phase [end-destroy-records] => [Test End]
phase no difference [0ms to 0ms]

Scenario - add-children: ✅ Performance improved

✅ duration
phase estimated improvement -7ms [-9ms to -4ms] OR -1.57% [-2.16% to -1.02%]
☑️ Phase [navigationStart] => [start-push-initial-payload]
phase no difference [0ms to 1ms]
✅ Phase [start-push-initial-payload] => [start-push-update-payload]
phase estimated improvement -3ms [-4ms to -1ms] OR -2.05% [-3.61% to -0.57%]
✅ Phase [start-push-update-payload] => [end-push-update-payload]
phase estimated improvement -4ms [-6ms to -3ms] OR -4.39% [-6.06% to -2.73%]
☑️ Phase [end-push-update-payload] => [Test End]
phase no difference [-1ms to 1ms]

Scenario - unused-relationships: ✅ Performance improved

✅ duration
phase estimated improvement -9ms [-11ms to -6ms] OR -1.92% [-2.54% to -1.33%]
☑️ Phase [navigationStart] => [start-push-payload]
phase no difference [-1ms to 0ms]
✅ Phase [start-push-payload] => [end-push-payload]
phase estimated improvement -8ms [-10ms to -6ms] OR -2.88% [-3.75% to -2.1%]
☑️ Phase [end-push-payload] => [Test End]
phase no difference [0ms to 0ms]