chore: additional CI and PDM cleanup

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• New code has 100% test coverage
• (If applicable) The prose documentation has been updated to reflect the changes introduced by this PR
• (If applicable) The reference documentation has been updated to reflect the changes introduced by this PR
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Description

This PR does a variety of PDM cleanup activities

• Applies TOML linting to the pyproject.toml and validated against the PyProject specification
• Removed unsupported group attribute and pinned dev install of exceptiongroup to <3.11
• Removes pre-commit install from Makefile
• add pdm install -G:all to PDM installation to grab optional dev dependencies
• Remove PDM lock check from pre-commit. This has a similar issue as with poetry and leads to many failures due to hash conflicts
• Adds README.md to codespell. The latest updates a raising errors for proper names
• Adds httptools and uvloop to the standard group. These are both performance optionals for uvicorn that normal come with the standard package. websockets is the only standard dependency from uvicorn currently excluded.
• Removes asyncmy, oracledb, spanner, and asyncmy from dependencies
• Remove unused SQLAlchemy pytest markers
• Remove docker fixture references to Oracle, MySQL, and Spanner

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