gomod(dm): upgrade go-mysql to 1.9.1 (#11630)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #11630

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #11603

What is changed and how it works?

update github.com/go-mysql-org/go-mysql version from 1.7.1 to 1.9.1, which support connecting to mysql 8.0 with password longer than 19 characters.

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Manual test

Manual test: run quick-start dm task and saw no more connection error.

Questions

Will it cause performance regression or break compatibility?

No

Do you need to update user documentation, design documentation or monitoring documentation?

No

Release note

None

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Test name	Commit	Details	Required	Rerun command
pull-cdc-integration-kafka-test	db0d530	link	true	/test cdc-integration-kafka-test
pull-cdc-integration-mysql-test	db0d530	link	true	/test cdc-integration-mysql-test
pull-dm-integration-test	db0d530	link	true	/test dm-integration-test
pull-dm-compatibility-test	db0d530	link	true	/test dm-compatibility-test
jenkins-ticdc/verify	db0d530	link	true	/test verify

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