[Backport ray 2.36.0] Fix arrow_parquet_args

[alexwang177]

Why are these changes needed?

Copy change from OSS fix. ray-project#47161

This allows us to correctly pass in arrow_parquet_args when calling ray.data.write_parquet. Most notably, this means we can write ZSTD compressed parquet files.

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