chore: update dependencies

[tlambert03]

should have done this before the release, but when I was making the conda recipe I noticed that we still depend on qtpy and superqt invariably. We also don't have lower pins.

I just tested a bunch of stuff to determine lower pins (can do this on CI later) and moved the qt extras into the qt-specific extras

[codecov]

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All modified and coverable lines are covered by tests ✅

Project coverage is 72.33%. Comparing base (3ed5b54) to head (29f4109).
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