MAINT update pre-commig-config

[glemaitre]

Update the pre-commit configuration.

The idea is to:

• use the same as scikit-learn
  • update the version
  • use ruff and black instead of isort and flake8
• centralize a bit more the config into the pyproject.toml
• remove mypy since it is not used.

I kept the traceback over 88 characters in this PR but I needed to switch from # noqa to # noqa: E501 at a different location.

[glemaitre]

@jeromedockes there was not real changes in the file that should affect the code. This is only cosmetic due to updating the tools.

[jeromedockes]

thanks for doing this maintenance @glemaitre

[glemaitre]

I see this is going towards the direction of #708

[jeromedockes]

merging. here come the git conflicts :D