Update operator k8s crates

[nhudson]

Update tembo-operator and conductor

• Use latest k8s-openapi and kube-rs node that we are on EKS 1.28
• Update CI and local to run Kind 1.28.9
• Update metrics crates to match across services
• New metric crates now append _total to each metric that is currently being tracked.
• Rename the conductor_total metric to conductor now that _total is appended automatically

new conductor metrics:

# HELP conductor_completed_total Number of messages successfully processed in conductor
# TYPE conductor_completed_total counter
conductor_completed_total{otel_scope_name="conductor"} 5
# HELP conductor_requeues_total Number of requeues in conductor
# TYPE conductor_requeues_total counter
conductor_requeues_total{queue_duration="short",otel_scope_name="conductor"} 2
# HELP conductor_total_total Total number of dequeues in conductor
# TYPE conductor_total_total counter
conductor_total{otel_scope_name="conductor"} 7
# HELP otel_scope_info Instrumentation Scope metadata
# TYPE otel_scope_info gauge
otel_scope_info{otel_scope_name="conductor"} 1
# HELP target_info Target metadata
# TYPE target_info gauge
target_info{service_name="unknown_service"} 1

old conductor metrics:

# HELP conductor_completed Number of messages sucessfully processed in conductor
# TYPE conductor_completed counter
conductor_completed{service_name="unknown_service"} 4
# HELP conductor_requeues Number of requeues in conductor
# TYPE conductor_requeues counter
conductor_requeues{queue_duration="short",service_name="unknown_service"} 1
# HELP conductor_total Total number of dequeues in conductor
# TYPE conductor_total counter
conductor_total{service_name="unknown_service"} 5

fixes: CLOUD-860