test: refactor local development for more configuration

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Refactors the make targets to allow for setting up a local-stack with the latest stable version of the lagoon-core, lagoon-remote, and lagoon-build-deploy charts, instead of bleeding edge. This also allows for the local-stack to be spun up much faster for not having to build the images prior.

These changes allow for someone install a local-stack with the stable version, then once it is running perform a Lagoon upgrade by re-installing just the Lagoon components (core, remote, build-deploy) with their latest charts or fresh built service images.

It is also possible to deselect which DBaaS providers are installed as part of a local-stack if you don't need them. This can be useful for mac users who currently have issues due to MongoDB not working on arm based systems, by default on mac or arm based systems the MongoDB provider will no longer be installed. The test suites may not work properly for any MongoDB based tests though, so be aware of this.

Additionally, the k3d config is setup to allow for the host docker socket to be used, this allows local-stacks being torn down and started again to leverage the host docker so that non-built images don't need to be re-pulled within the cluster if they're already present on the host. This should speed up the creation of subsequent local-stack clusters.