Add parsing for rest of obvious boolean extra arguments and throw for unsupported ones

[rcp1]

Improves situation for #978.

Instead of arbitrarily only allowing forward_global_arguments and use_intra_process_comms as extra arguments for loading a component, this PR enables support for all obvious boolean node options.

#978 discusses more problematic options like allow_undeclared_parameters, which are still unsupported.

At least, this PR adds an error message if such or other unsupported extra arguments are passed.

[mjcarroll]

Pulls: #2685
Gist: https://gist.githubusercontent.com/mjcarroll/4cf1ea0d0bfd14e07de243e49cbf7504/raw/35d3b41794eef76f498efb6802804c62de94cd4f/ros2.repos
BUILD args: --packages-above-and-dependencies rclcpp_components
TEST args: --packages-above rclcpp_components
ROS Distro: rolling
Job: ci_launcher
ci_launcher ran: https://ci.ros2.org/job/ci_launcher/14951

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[fujitatomoya]

this is not well-described in ros2 documentation, it is really hard to know for user what extra arguments are available. I can follow this up.